Today I did something drastic.. My last post was all about my New Years resolutions and my plans to take better care of myself, so today I did something radical and had all my hair cut off.. And I love it!
I should explain that my hair has really been stressing me out, of late. As if it wasn’t bad enough that I had no time to spend on hair maintenance with two little boys, I hit that period where, a few months after childbirth your hormones go through a massive recalibration and as a result your hair starts to break/shed like crazy. (It’s called post-partum hair loss, Google it, it’s real!). I didn’t really have a huge amount of breakage with Toddler Boy, but Baby Boy is nearly 5 months old and in the last month I have lost loads of hair from my hairline. Like, loads. So I was feeling pretty unkempt, living in PJs looking like I’d been dragged through a bush backwards. And I started to think .. “I need to just cut it all off, and go for short, low maintenance hair. No more chemical straightening, no more faffing about with it. I’m going to cut it all off and keep it as a natural Teeny Weeny Afro” (“TWA” – Google it, it’s real!).
So I did a bit of research on good Afro hairdressers, found one that sounded good, booked it in just after Boxing Day, and today I went in to The Hair Lounge on Portobello Road in London (in case any of you need a referral! I definitely recommend them) and the lovely owner, Charlotte Mensah, gave me a beautiful Big Chop!
Before: (quite some time before, so not showing the hairline damage)
I loved the whole experience and it was well worth the effort and expense of going to a good salon rather than trying to do it myself!
My mum and sister love it as much as I do, but Hubby is not a fan. So far all he has said about it is “OK then”. Not a fan at allllllll! But without sounding too political, adopting a natural unstraightened Afro/TWA style has already changed my outlook on myself and on life. I know that the average observer even in “multicultural London” would likely view me as less attractive with the type of short haircut usually seen on boys/men and with my coarse Afro hair texture. But when I look at it I see myself differently to any way I ever have before. I feel great! (Although I do feel I’ll have to pay close attention to my skincare regime!)
I love it, I feel like my hair is finally free to just be as God intended, no more chemicals or forced straightening, and I can only hope Hubby finds my new confidence and self-love noticeably attractive so my new hair cut grows on him. But if he doesn’t, that’s ok too, because in the words of India Arie “I am not my hair” and I know how he feels about me, the person, so he can see past a haircut he doesn’t like! Or else! Lol.
In other news, I have so far managed to drink at least 1L of water a day (which is huge for me), eaten loads of fruit and veg, and spent some time on my skincare. So far so good, with some of my resolutions at least!
Penny for your thoughts: please feel free to leave a comment! Have you Big Chopped, gone natural, or taken some time away from family/commitments to do something big and unexpected for yourself? Ever had a haircut your spouse didn’t like? Do tell!